40 Hours or More Per Week
Yesterday I ran into an ex-boyfriend of mine I haven’t seen in years (thank gravity I looked better than he did). We met a while back when we worked for the same company. It was a pretty bad split but seeing how there are no residual feelings between us and so many years have passed, our little run in was actually amicable and it was good to catch up.
Later I couldn’t help but reminisce over our courtship – the good, the bad, and the downright ugly. I remember coordinating my schedule so I wouldn’t run into him. Taking the long way to the copier, waiting until late in the afternoon to grab lunch in the cafeteria, and lastly leaving work after six so I could be sure not to run into him in the parking lot. When we were forced to interact it was tense, awkward, and embarrassing as I knew we had become an in-house sitcom for our co-workers. Luckily I only had to endure it for a short period of time. He found another job shortly thereafter and I was able to return to regular scheduled programming.
Many would agree that dating inside the workplace is natural given we spend eight or more hours a day there. I know many people who have been successful navigating a relationship in the workplace, however what happens when you start dating a co-worker and things don’t work out? What happens when it ends – and it ends badly?
Would you be able to handle your love life becoming water cooler gossip amongst your other co-workers? Could you handle being in a meeting, sitting across the aisle, company outings, department lunches with your ex?
That relationship was the first and the last that I’ve had with someone I worked with. I have since developed a “no dating co-workers” policy. I’m not anti-relationship, I’m anti-messiness. If things ended badly with an ex that you worked with would you run for the help wanted ads or would you attempt to find some civil ground so that you can co-exist on job?
Readers, what say you?